As important as this chapter is, it was admittedly difficult to initially connect it to a long term goal – especially my ling term goal involving cardiovascular health. If the chapter’s contents were looked at more specifically, not as a whole, it became slightly easier. This led to some surprisingly intricate points that were made that connect directly to my goal (or any goal for that matter). The first of these points revolved around friendships. “Friendships are often the first relationships we form outside our immediate families, and they can be some of our most stable and enduring” (Donatelle, 2019, p. 73). Friendships are some of the most fundamental relationships that we will experience in our lives. I feel this is even more so the closer you are to those friends. I have a relatively small group of friends but feel that I am extremely close with each individual friend. None more so than my best friend, who is not only my roommate but my running buddy mentioned in previous blog posts. On days where I am feeling off, my friend is there to drive me to keep going or to support me if I can not keep going that day.
The second of these points that stood out to me was that of self-esteem and self-acceptance. It is incredibly important to view ourselves in a positive light. Not only during this time of striving for a long-term goal but in life in general as well, it can change the outcomes we work towards if we do not first have the confidence and belief in ourselves to get the job done. Along with decisions we make and our ability to complete tasks, self-esteem and self-acceptance play a role in our relationships as well. “Your perception of yourself influences your relationship choices” (Donatelle, 2019, p. 72). The people we surround ourselves with are often said to share similar traits to ourselves, and I feel that this is backed up by this quote. The way we see ourselves is often the way our closest friends act as well. In this way, I feel that my friends are some of my biggest supporters and the first people I can go to in tough times or times of need.
This overall has a huge impact on the success of the attainment of my long-term goal, especially down the line this semester. My friends will be there for me to support me when I have a tough day or when I think that I am failing to lift me up and keep me on course. This week was another trying week for me. I had more days of trying to run more, but not being as successful as I would have hoped. I put some of the time I was unable to run towards starting yoga and meditation, and I hope to get my roommate/friend to start doing it with me in addition to running. I hope that this will help me down the line. In relation to the chapter, I also think that this could lead to a progression in our relationship as well, with time relaxing, destressing, and bettering ourselves, together.





